Whitesplaining and Other Stupid Racist Shit that’s Pissing Me Off

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Whitesplaining, as defined by Urban Dictionary: “The paternalistic lecture given by whites toward a person of color defining what should and shouldn’t be considered racist, while obliviously exhibiting their own racism.”

Recently, two black men were shot and killed by white police in the US, in circumstances where they were not posing a threat and should not have been shot. Later, after a peaceful protest in Dallas, a black man shot 14 people, injuring two black civilians and 7 police officers, and killing five white police officers.

natashaWhile since then lots of heartwarming stories and videos are coming out that show caring and consideration and humanity between these groups, like this Facebook post shown here, it’s probably pretty safe to say race relations are currently being tested, as is the relationship between police and the public, especially when that public is made up of people of color.

That particular segment of the public will not be at all shocked by the “whitesplaining” that I’ve heard in the past few days, but I sure as hell have been. I’d never heard that term before – a sign of my own white privilege, no doubt – but I’ve definitely heard the reality of it and other forms of ignorant racism being thrown around: racism disguised as fairness, racism disguised as logic.

 

 

Saying: All Lives Matter

Here’s a great meme you might have seen:

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Or, as my friend Ben says, “Saying ‘Black Lives Matter’ is not the same as saying ‘White Lives Don’t Matter.’” But this is a typical reaction to those in an advantageous, privileged position feeling threatened that the status quo might be changing and jumping in to assert their own “equality.”

Here’s how I like to look at it. Saying “All lives matter” in response to “Black Lives Matter” is like saying “Lots of people have cancer” when your friend tells you about her cancer diagnosis. Of course it’s true. But it’s not the point, and bringing it up is like trying to erase the reality of what that one person or group of people is going through.

I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt that your intentions are good, but seriously! Can you let the sun stop shining on you for just a few short minutes while society sorts out a critical problem here where black people are actually losing their lives?

 

 

 

Saying “This Isn’t a Race Issue”

policegun Black male friends of mine get stopped by police on a regular basis when they are just walking down the street from one place to another. They are asked to show their ID, asked to explain what they’re doing. Does that happen to white friends of mine? Nope, never. This might be anecdotal, but statistics bear me out.

While the majority of people killed by police in the US are armed and pose a clear danger, unarmed people of all races are being killed by police too often. This is a serious problem altogether, but the problem is worse for black people. From a Washington Post article: “’The only thing that was significant in predicting whether someone shot and killed by police was unarmed was whether or not they were black,’ said Justin Nix, a criminal-justice researcher at the University of Louisville and the author of [a comprehensive report on criminal justice]. “Crime variables did not matter in terms of predicting whether the person killed was unarmed.’”

compositeBut let’s take a step back here, because this is where “whitesplaining” is at its finest (aka worst). Who the hell are you to tell an entire population that you are not even part of that their perception is invalid just because you say it is, from your safe little cushy seat? You don’t know anything about it! You don’t. If you want to start arguing in a way that counters research, then you’d better have some pretty solid research of your own to back it up.

 

 

 

Saying Black Lives Matter Protests are Anti-Police Protests

blmI can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen statements like “The police in Dallas were protecting the very same people who were protesting against them.”

What a twisted way of seeing this situation. While there are undoubtedly people within the BLM movement who are very distrustful of police, the movement and the protests are not against that or any other community. They are FOR their own community! Black parents don’t want their babies to come home in a body bag because their car signal light didn’t work. The protest is to assert that their own lives and the lives of their friends and family mean something, that they should not be taken away for no reason, as if they are meaningless.

If you are propagating the idea that the BLM protests are against the police, then you are personally helping to widen the chasm.

 

Pointing Out that Blacks Kill Whites, as if it’s Some Defense

Yes, of the murders that happen in the US, some are blacks killing whites. (Despite what you may have heard, however, 82% of the murders of whites are by other whites.) Yes, the sniper in Dallas, who was black, killed white people. Of course it was terrible. Murder of anyone by anyone is a tragedy. But that does not make it ok to murder someone else, and it certainly does not make it ok for police to murder someone unarmed and non-threatening. Most murders, black and white, are by men. So is it ok to kill someone because he’s male? Do you see the stupidity of this “logic”?

 

Pointing Out That Victim had a Criminal Record

getting arrestedMaybe you think it should be ok if a person with a criminal record is gunned down in the street when he’s lying on his stomach in a non-threatening position. You might, for some ungodly reason, think you want to live in a society where ex-cons are shot arbitrarily in the street. But it’s not legal, and you don’t live in that society. That is not the way the US criminal justice system is set up.

Police officers, like the rest of the population, are legally allowed to kill another person only if they feel their life or another person’s life is being threatened. Someone can be the meanest ex-con, he can be mouthing off at you, swearing and calling you names. Heck, he can even threaten your life! But if your life is not threatened in that moment, you cannot legally kill him, and neither can the police.

 

 

 

Wendy has a history of using logic and common sense instead of knee-jerk reactions when responding to, well, pretty much everything.

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